Last updated on November 10th, 2020
Anyone that wants to learn more about the best gay and lesbian bars or clubs in San Diego can certainly do so right here. We will also be covering things like mixed clubs, trans bars, drag shows, the main queer areas of town in Hillcrest and North Park plus more in our LGBT nightlife guide.
There are plenty of annual and more frequent pride events that also deserve a mention. And since we all have phones attached to our hands these days it would be quite silly for us to leave out the best LGBT dating sites to use.
We know that you all have your own style so we will mention as many options as possible and then let you choose your own adventure. You can take a look at all of our guides for the West Coast at that link.
Best LGBT Bars & Clubs In San Diego
Let’s start this off with a list of the best mixed LGBT bars and nightclubs in San Diego:
- Red Wing at 4012 30th St
- Cheers at 1839 Adams Ave
- Rich’s at 1051 University Ave
- Pecs at 2046 University Ave
- Eagle at 3040 North Park Way
- The Rail at 3796 Fifth Ave
- Flicks at 1017 University Ave
- Urban MO’s at 308 University Ave
- The Hole in the Wall at 2820 Lytton St
- Gossip Grill at 1220 University Ave
Best Gay Bars & Clubs
It really wasn’t all that long ago when gay bars in San Diego were only full of men looking for men to hook up with. These days most places are more mixed LGBT style, and some are mixed gay and straight. There will be plenty of men looking to hook up at the bars and clubs we just listed.
Best Lesbian Bars & Clubs in San Diego
We are also not aware of any straight up lesbian bars in San Diego for women to meet women. The mixed list should have plenty of options for you and if there are no cute girls around to hit on head out and find another place to try.
If we had to pick one spot to recommend to the ladies it would be Gossip Grill, but even it is getting more mixed these days. You could also head to Rich’s on Thursday nights for one of the biggest lesbian parties in town.
Drag Shows & Trans Bars
We aren’t really to the point of having full on trans bars in San Diego, but you can find drag shows that may help you locate ts near you at:
- The Forbidden Show at Lips at 3036 El Cajon Blvd on Saturday late
- Bitchy Bingo at Lips on Wednesdays
- Drag Queen Show at Coyote Ugly at 820 Fifth Ave
- Baja Betty’s
We really do try our best to keep our lists current but we cover so many cities around the world that perfection is impossible. We know the scene here pretty well, but not as well as the local experts.
Use the comments to let us know if anything is out of date or if we are missing any key spots. Also, if you think any venues should be listed as solely places for men to meet men or women to meet women fill us in, thanks if you can give us an assist.
Many of these gay or lesbian bars and clubs can be found in the LGBT nightlife areas of Hillcrest and North Park. Go out there and you will be able to check out the various venues and find out the right spots for your personal tastes.
Some of you may also be interested in our posts on:
Weekly, Monthly, & Pride Events
Here are some of the best LGBT events that occur on a regular basis:
- Lesbian Night Every Thursday Night at Rich’s
- Beer Pong & Karaoke at The Whole in the Wall on Fridays
- The Underwear Show at Flicks every Saturday Nights
- Flicker! at Flicks on Thursdays
The Parade San Diego held every June is obviously a can’t miss.
Best LGBT Dating Sites
Let’s face it, going out to an LGBT bar or club isn’t for everyone. Sure, there will be some sexy people around you might be able to hook up with, but you have to deal with being around a bunch of drunk strangers which can be very hit or miss.
Plus some reading this may not be ‘out’ yet and may not feel comfortable in that type of setting. Whatever your reasons or motivations are LGBT dating sites are a great way to meet people near you without having to get all dressed up and head to a gay or lesbian bar.
Our first sites to mention are brought to you by Adult Friend Finder. You have probably seen the AFF links online before since they have helped millions of people hook up in their nearly two decades doing their thing.
Their main site to find gay men near you to hook up with is Men Nation and it has tons of users in major cities like this one. Their site for the ladies is Lesbian Personals and it can also lead to a lot of fun.
Those who enjoy hooking up with all genders can use Adult Friend Finder because it covers all the users on their sites that cover all types of fetishes and desires. For fast m4m hook ups nothing out there is going to work better than Men Nation.
For f4f hook ups try out Lesbian Personals and have a great time doing so. We also want to mention MyTransgenderDate. Trans dating in San Diego is more popular than ever before and will only continue to be so as more ts feel confident enough to be the person they really want to be.
At this point we have covered the San Diego LGBT nightlife in full. You know all about the best mixed, gay, or lesbian bars and clubs plus drag shows to party with trans and a wide variety of LGBT dating sites. Now choose the best option for you and enjoy yourself.